Do you have an Instagram account? I absolutely love Instagram! (If you have an account, connect with me @ amandajanebrown). I love the simplicity, the creativity (of other’s photos!), the whimsy, and the connection.
My nearly-12-year-old has begged, pleaded, groveled…for an “Insta” account. “All” her friends have one (not true, but whatever). “Insta” in the tween world is way different than Instagram in my mom-blogger-friend world. I get that. And after much thought and consideration, we decided to let our daughter open an account…with the agreement that she would sign, follow, and adhere to a few rules. She says I’m a little strict, but I’ll take that as a compliment in this “let your daughter do whatever they want to” world.
Here is our contract…and keep in mind it is written for an 11-year-old mentality. No beatin’ around the bush or big words.
1. I will keep in mind that I want a job one day, and that any picture I post on Instagram is out there forever.
Maddie has forever had dreams of becoming a camp counselor at her favorite camp, among many other attainable jobs…near future and far.
2. Silly pictures are okay. Stupid pictures are not. Stupid would include naked pictures or my tongue sticking out or looking like I’m trying to be 23. I’m 11. (And I want to get a job one day.)
**While Maddie could not fathom why someone would take a “naked” picture, I’m not stupid. It’s in our very midst. What IS stupid, is for us as parents to pretend it’s not.
3. I will not post pictures that would embarrass or hurt another person. Ever.
4. I will not overpost pictures of myself. In addition, I will not refer to myself as “hot, hottie, or sexy.” Even if I do not fully understand why.
Our girl is well-loved. I cringe at the thought of my daughter longing for approval via Instagram comments. In addition, our twisted society has normalized “sexiness” in very, very young girls. How this irritates me, scares me, and causes me to long for Jesus to return. But until then, we are going to protect her as best as we know how.
5. Mom and Dad can access my account any time because they have my password, and I will delete any pictures they tell me to. (I want to get a job one day).
6. I will keep my Instagram account set to “private” at all times, and will not accept follower invites from people I do not know, especially boys or men.
7. I will never, ever give out my address, location, or any other identifiable information on Instagram. Creepy people will come get me.
I fully intend on scaring her to death about online predators and the boogeyman.
8. No posting from Instagram at sleepovers. If the sleepover is at our house, all devices stay downstairs after 9pm.
I’ve seen firsthand where this is just a disaster waiting to happen. I wish sleepovers would just go away.
9. I will leave my Ipod Touch downstairs every night at 9pm to charge. No exceptions.
10. I will have fun, be creative, and connect with my friends…keeping in mind…that I want to get a job one day.
Sign and Date___________________________
Printable Contract (without the peanut-gallery comments)
What safety measures do you have in place for your kids’ devices, social media, computers, etc? I’d love to hear your ideas!